Why do some people bounce back from misfortune? While others’ fall apart? Dealing with change or challenges is an inevitable part of life. How we deal with these setbacks will affect our psychological robustness – rather than try to fight the situation at hand, learning to accept the opposing situation and working through it is the key to being resilient.
The essence of resilience is looking at an adverse event from more than one perspective – develop a bird’s-eye view. Instead of just focusing on the negative aspects, learn to also look for the positive. Instead of seeing the situation as an obstacle to growth, see it as an aid in furthering your growth and vivacity. Learn to become your own best friend, in that, it can often be easier to see a situation clearer from afar than within. Say to yourself; ‘If my friend was going through this, what advice would I give?’
Being resilient means being flexible, adapting to new circumstances quickly and thriving in constant change. Above all, believe and expect that you will bounce back from adverse circumstances. “Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans” (John Lennon). Let go of control of how things should be and become resilient to what life throws at you next. Here are some tips on how to do so.
You have the power to change your mindset
Being resilient means dealing with negative emotions (such as pain, loss) quicker and more effectively. Becoming aware of your own emotional reactions and behaviours is key to maintaining control of a situation.
See Challenges as a learning curve
It’s important to develop a learner mindset in all situations. Instead of saying why is this happening to me? Begin to ask yourself, ‘What is useful here’, ‘What are my available options’. Learner questions are empowering and promote acceptance.
Accept that life will not always be easy
Knowing that life won’t always be easy is very important to mastering the strength to deal with adverse situations. We won’t be able to avoid all these problems, but we can remain open, flexible and willing to adapt to change.
Strong Social Connections
Building strong friendships and relationships with others can help you through the good and bad times. Often when we don’t share a problem, we feel as though we are the only one in the world facing such a difficult time, and this can lead the situation to become worse. Sharing reminds us that we are not alone and we can rely on others for support.
Taking responsibility of your own life gives you the power to take the necessary action to get the desired result. Believing that we have a certain amount of control over an event gives us more confidence to handle tiring situations.
Take Care of yourself
An engine that isn’t looked after will break down, and so to, will we, if we don’t look after ourselves both physically and mentally. Keep your mind and body fit and active through exercise, mindfulness, yoga, prayer. Give yourself space to rejuvenate emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually every day.
Don’t procrastinate! Everyday keep moving forward step by step. Don’t ignore your problems or try to wish them away, take them on and find a way to solve them immediately. Do not let them linger. If you have been putting off a phone call, make it today. Once we have followed through, it no longer occupies our minds and we feel lighter and better able to deal with the next challenge.
Resilience does not erase stress or get rid of life’s difficulties. Instead, it gives people strength to face life’s problems head on, tackle them and move forward. Being resilient means you have the power to keep your view on the brighter side of life.