Portarlington Psychologist and Operation Transformation expert, Dr Eddie Murphy has some final festive advice for Christmas.
It’s been a fabulous privilege over the year to be able to write and share some of my views informed by children, parents, adults and families who come and see me in my clinic and psychological research.
We have looked at many things this year; hope, optimism managing negative emotions – panic, fear, sadness, anger etc.
Most of all, I hope to have shared with you ideas for managing your thoughts, feelings, actions and relationships.
My key point is that you can manage these things most often without resorting to things outside of yourself – alcohol, medications, and other people.
It’s you that makes your future. I think the most important theme I have encouraged is to become your “real self”.
Abandon the “front” or the false self that people put on for others as this sucks the life and energy out of you.
To become your real self I offer these gifts from me to you.
20 Christmas Gifts From Dr Eddie To You
1. Have a vision for your life.
2. Speak less. Listen more.
3. Know the 5 highest priorities in your life.
4. Eat less food.
5. Find more heroes.
6. Be a hero to someone.
7. Smile at strangers.
8. Get into shape.
Regardless of age or mobility getting to your absolute best physical condition will create explosive energy, renew your focus and multiply your creativity.
9. Don’t settle for anything less than excellence.
10. Walk, run, jog or cycle in the woods.
11. Forgive those who have wronged you.
12. Create unforgettable moments with those you love.
13. Pursue your dreams.
14. Don’t give up.
15. Shift from being busy to achieving results.
16. Be the best person you know.
17. Be passionate.
18. Be authentic.
19. Make your life matter.
20. Become and embrace your “Real Self”.
With Christmas just upon us, hopefully you will have much of the stress of planning and present buying already done.
For the next week, there are other things you can do to keep stress at bay.
health and wellbeing
Try to be moderate – it may be the season to be jolly, but too much food and alcohol is harmful. Drink driving is a real danger and is illegal.
Get enough sleep – plan plenty of early nights.
Keep moving – keeping up your exercise routine can give you the fitness and stamina to make it through the demands of the season.
Stress, anxiety, and low mood particularly if someone is bereaved, are common at Christmas.
Don’t expect miracles. If you and certain family members bicker all year long, you can be sure there’ll be tension at Christmas gatherings. Avoid known triggers, particularly alcohol which can feed tension and arguments.
GOAL mile walk starts at 11.00am finishes 11.30 on Christmas Day at Portarlington GAA CLUB, run, walk or jog while the turkey cooks. No registration, donate at gate.