Christmas is a time to count our blessings - Psychologist Dr Eddie Murphy

Reflect on the good things in your life
Christmas is here. As you get togther with family and friends its good to reflect on your blessings.

Christmas is here. As you get togther with family and friends its good to reflect on your blessings.

My gift to you is to ask you to think about the wonderful things to be grateful for in life.

Take some time to appreciate yourself. I’m talking about actually appreciating all the good things you’ve done for you and the world. As Buddha says “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”

All our relationships depend upon our relationship with ourselves. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t possibly love someone else. If you don’t respect yourself, you likely won’t make respectable choices. If you don’t value your time, you probably won’t use it in a way you deem valuable.

The way you treat yourself dictates how you’ll treat the world around you. So we should all recognize all the good we each do each day.

Good Things You Do for You

1. You let yourself learn new things, which helps you grow and contribute to the world.

2. You do good things for your body, like exercising and eating healthy foods (even if not always).

3. You honour your life by making health a priority.

4. You bounce back from bad days & disappointments.

6. You do what’s right for you, even if it’s not easy to say no to other people, (occasionally people pleasing).

7. You choose to be around people who make you feel good about yourself.

8. You work toward goals that make you feel passionate and purposeful.

9. You give yourself the sleep you need to feel energized and balanced each day.

The Good Things You Do for Other People

1. You have good intentions.

2. You accept people for who they are and try to keep an open mind.

3. You make people laugh.

4. You listen to people when they need an ear.

5. You’re compassionate toward other people.

6. You make selfless decisions to look out for the people you love, even if not always.

7. You forgive people when they make mistakes, even if sometimes it’s hard.

8. You help other people reach their potential.

The Good Things You Do for the World

1. You care about your work, or something you do outside it, and you do it passionately.

2. You want to make a difference.

3. If you’re a parent, you’re shaping the next generation.

7. You give back, whether that means volunteering, donating old clothes, or simply helping a stranger in need.

So at this time of the year take stock. I look forward to writing for you in the new year. If you have areas of interest that you would like to see a psychological perspective or have particular questions you want to ask then email me on

GOAL MILE - Look around and join in your local GOAL Mile christmas morning. Here you can create a family memory – Run, Walk or Jog while the Turkey cooks. No registration required. Just turn up.

I‘ll be back on Operation Transformation in the New Year, the five leaders two men and three women have all been selected. Hopefully you will be inspired to join us in increasing your health and happiness.

2015 promises to be a big year and in March I look forward to releasing my first book – BECOMING YOUR REAL SELF - A Practical Toolkit for Managing Life’s Challenges – Penguin Ireland. More about this next year.